Parenting can hold conflict. Conflict within ourselves, conflict with our spouses, conflict with family members, conflict with friends, and quite often conflict with our children. It’d be nice if we could just be “friends” with our children but that simply isn’t an accurate picture of Biblical Parenting.
Biblical Parenting means that I love you enough to NOT be your friend. I love you enough that I want to be your friend. I love you enough to make all the hard calls, to spend sleepless nights praying for you, to spend days training you, to spend all my resources emotionally and physically to make your life better. I love you enough to spend hours talking with you and even more hours listening to you. I love you enough to let you dream your own dreams and become the person that God wants you to be. I love you enough to have conflict!
I often remind myself that conflict is a good thing when done with eternity in focus. Conflict isn’t so I can tell someone how ‘wrong’ they are and how ‘right’ I am. Conflict isn’t about making people agree with me or justifying why I did something. The purpose for conflict, in my opinion, is to lead to restoration. Restoration of our relationships and restoration with God. When I keep restoration as the goal of conflict it makes the difficult process more clear, not easy but clear. I can see what my goal is and I’m willing to go through the pain of attaining that goal. Oh, how sweet the feeling of restored relationships!
Today I show up at HIS feet and say, “Lord make yourself strong in my weakness" Today, I will chose to embrace all the moments of parenting. The beautiful moments, the easy moments, the fun moments, the victorious moments and even the moments of conflict. All for your Glory…
With much love,
Mrs. Joseph Wood