What’s it mean to you to be a wife? Is it the same idea that you had as a six year old, a 16year old, at your engagement, at your 1st week of marriage, 1st year of marriage, 10th year of marriage, 25th year of marriage? Probably not!
When I was a little girl, I never dreamed that I would spend more nights sleeping alone than with my husband. I never would have guessed that I would be the mother to ten children… and counting. That I would be living on a farm trying to raise and grow our own food, that my husband would actually be a better friend than anyone I had known before. I had never put life as a wife together with life as a missionary, servant, and royalty… yet it is all these things! My husband and children have given me more honor than I could have gained in the corporate world. My husband and children have required more faithful, selfless sacrifice from me than any other mission field I could have ever gone too. I have served my husband and children more than anything I could ever think possible for myself. My life as a wife is a tangible example of God being made strong in our weakness!!
Too often, the romantic notions of childhood are what lead us to heartache as adults. We have unrealistic expectations for our spouses, children, holidays and more! We would be wise as mommas to give our girls a realistic, biblical image of marriage. While there is an abundance of great resources I could refer you too there is no need for curriculum or books regarding this training of your girls. They will learn the most by what they see you live!
What does your life look like as a wife? Is it one that matches the examples laid out in the Scriptures? Where does it lack? Improve on those areas! Talk to your girls about how you are striving to glorify God as a wife and mother. Ask for prayer. Together, think of ways to minister to the man that God has fashioned you to be a wife too! Bring your girls alongside you to serve your husband instead of waiting for him to serve you! AND FOR HEAVENS SAKE… put off the notion that someone else could do a better job, or if only your husband was like “so and so”!!! These are lies from the pit of hell targeted at keeping you from growing in grace and victory!
Before closing let me say that today, I see a beautiful culture of mothers striving to teach their daughters about the service of being a wife in the eyes of God. I see young mommas that are putting off the chains of feminism and striving to learn the steps of this mission field that many of us call, “Motherhood.” My heart is encouraged as I look around me, read the emails, and listen to the conversations.
So, how’s your life as a wife? I pray that it is abounding in His blessings and growing by His amazing grace!!
With much love,
Mrs. Joseph Wood