Question: I often read your blog and feel like I have done it all wrong. When is it too late? Is there still hope for me? Have I already ruined my children with my inconsistency, anger, frustration and laziness? Thank you for any helpful tips you could offer to someone who’s already made a mess of it all!
Answer: First of all, let me tell you that I don’t believe it is ever too late as long as we have breath in us! We can always repent and learn to do what is right! Take heart! I am confident it is NOT too late! Remember it’s not your job to show your child a perfect parent. It’s your duty to show them a forgiven sinner! Operate in the grace of God! Share with your children specific areas you feel the Lord has been talking to you about changing and then let them know you are going to be faithful and do things different! Many times parents don’t know how to untangle the mess they’ve created. I always encourage others to start with prayer! Ask the Lord what one character or issue needs to be addressed first and then be faithful to do it. If your child is not use to a daily family devotion, that is where I would encourage you to start. Be faithful even when you’re tired, life is busy, or you are running late. Let your child see you setting the example that your time in the Word is a priority! When you are addressing poor behavior, I would encourage you to do lots of communicating. Share with your child that you know you have let things go. You know that you use to let them do "this or that” however, God has convicted you that things must change and that it is no longer acceptable. Clearly communicate the guidelines BEFORE you are in the heat of the moment. Let them know that you will stand before God accountable on how you raised them and that you must be obedient to do as He is leading you. Ask them to forgive you for not being diligent in the past. Even though there are sure to be some growing pains you are looking forward to the good work that God is doing in both of your lives. Is it too late? NO!~ Is there still Hope? YES!
Looking forward to hearing the good news as He continues to work in your heart and home! Praise God for His faithfulness to teach us!
With much love,
Mrs. Joseph Wood