Proverbs 13: 20
He that walketh with wise men shall be wise: but a companion of fools shall be destroyed.
The Scriptures tell us that foolishness is bound up in the heart of a child (Proverbs 22:15) and since this passage warns of what companionship of fools can lead too, we have chosen to carefully help our children in the development of friendships. I don’t want to subject anyone’s child to the foolishness of my own child and I don’t want my child to suffer the insult of another’s foolishness!
Here are a few suggestions of what we have done here in our home:
- We guard how much time we are out with others. Much of the needed training for children is neglected when we are out and about.
- We look for other families that realize the Truth of these passages and are committed to training their children. That is not to say that we don’t get together with families who have neglected child training, it just means that we take special attention to warn the children of problem areas we have observed. For example, we use to have a neighbor family that would come to visit with us. Whenever their momma would tell them it was time to go they would hesitate, whine and hide. After they left we talked about why that was wrong and how we might help our friends. The children came up with the ideas that were quite successful. Children are very effective in communicating to other children!
- We invite our children into the parent’s conversations. Allowing our children to be part of our conversations has brought about an abundance of fruit in our home! I find that most adults enjoy conversing with my children and my children enjoy sharing with them too! I did have to teach my children how to listen and learn from what they were hearing. Some very precious child training moments have been born from our children listening to their daddy talk to other wise men or while their momma encourages/or is encouraged by another Sister in the Lord.
God has a passion for people and I believe that if we desire the heart of God we too will have a passion for people. It has been my heart prayer that others would NOT see the time I take to share as "someone who had nothing better to do" rather, as a handmaiden that understood and enjoyed taking time for others because God had taken time for her! I encourage you to consider the Truth in this passage and develop friendships that bring Him Glory!
With much love,
Mrs. Joseph Wood